Exploring the Power of the 'Space-Between' in Love Relationships: Nurturing Conscious Connections

Most people describe a committed love relationship consisting of two people. But Martin Buber describes a love relationship as "two people plus the Space-Between them.”

What is it and how does it help guide you and your partner to create a conscious, thriving relationship?

What is the space between?

In relationships, the Space-Between includes all interactions between partners. Every spoken word, tone of voice, every glance. It also includes the unspoken communication of body language (called nonverbal cues).

It’s these interactions in the Space-Between that directly determine the experiences inside and the condition of the relationship.

The space between can be filled with positive energies: admiration, appreciation, joy and confidence. Conversely, it can be filled with negative energies: criticism, blaming, disappointments and secrets.

Although the space between cannot be seen, we feel it and we react towards it. When the space between is filled with love and appreciation, we feel connected and happy. But when it is filled with anger and bitterness, we feel disconnected and sad.

Dr. Hendrix compares the Space-Between to a river that runs between you. You both drink from the river. So, it’s important that it be free from garbage and toxins.

How to keep the space between clean?

MAKE A COMMITMENT TO STOP FILLING IT WITH CRITICISMS AND HURTFUL COMMENTS.

Infuse the Space-Between with affirming, positive, and loving behaviors.

Ask yourself:

What do I bring to the space between? Love and appreciation or criticism and disappointment?

REMEMBER ALL NEGATIVITY, CRITICISM, BLAME AND SHAME ARE LIKE TOXIC.